Something we're currently considering. Opinions please.

[NearlyFellForIt]

Hi guys,

Unfortnately for me, once bitten hard, twice shy...I will never trust any guy online again, and for that reason I would not be interested. But thank you for your continued support for us victims. This site has kept me sane, and I really mean that. I just wish that there was someway of getting to this site before, rather than after the scam. I feel that the profile of scamming should definitely be raised over here in the UK, with a particular emphasis on the professional romance scammer, that is prepared to put hours, day, months etc in to groom the victim, even putting his own money in for calling cards to call the UK from Nigeria! I have heard of the more obvious scam before (without wishing to belittle anyone who has fallen for the lost wallet etc), but the guy that did me was GOOD! It didn't fit the storyline pattern that I'd heard about before, and although you will have spotted the obvious, because it's style is not highlighted for warning over here, I didn't see it coming. I know there is an element of denial and wishful thinking in our romantic notions about what we think is happening, but you could do with raising the profile of romance-scamming on a more devious level (like the guy that hooked me) through magazine features etc, or as headers (like advertisements) on webpages. Not wanting to tell you how to do your jobs guys, just telling you what's missing over here in my eyes. Thanks, and keep up the good work! xxx

[Marisa]

hehe ladies... In reality, Wayne just needs a cyber girlfriend!!!

He is too embarrassed to search for one here or on datingnmore, so he wants to create his own playground, where he can punch ya all's butts incognito!

[wayne]

Damn, my secret's out!!

[Graywolves]

Though I have not been a victim, I have been the target of several attempts at the scams...I am too jaded to fall into that love trap, scam or not. I hate being burned....too many times...finding that special someone has been a tough time....I meet someone that is a good match, they are already married....and I do not want to break up a marriage...the same could come back upon me...karma and all that.

But I do agree, it would be hard to administer and likely costly on bandwidth useage. Of course, simple contact arrangement itself is the primary focus, so it could be self limiting that way. Most people may look up a profile and contact the person anyway, for any reason. Most forums are built like that.

I don't use the online dating thing because I consider THOSE a scam. Many of the so called matches I am presented with are not attractive to me. For example, I consider a little extra weight to be perhaps 30-40 lbs over a typical weight vs height standard...for example, I am 5'7 and about 180-185, idealy I should be around 160-170...I am by far not fat and consider myself a "few extra pounds" as some dating sites define...some profiles I've matched to, the women are full on obese. Sorry for appearing shallow...but to me, the physical appearance of a potential significant other is an important part of the attraction...I do not mind a few extra pounds...but NOT 100 or more. I digress...

The dating sites expect me to pay to contact someone I find attractive or comes close to the qualities I am looking for...I may as well go to a bar, at least then when I spend money, its on a beer and I can enjoy THAT while perusing.

As for other points, most of the previous posts covered those concerns.

[geecee]

My opinion on something we're currently considering.

Just viewed the poll and gave a yes vote
There are many Internet singles and dating sites already but I believe this worth considering as many of us have experienced burnt fingers by these scammers. My own world has come crashing down around me and I honestly thought it would never happen to oneself. It is an in-describable feeling to discover the woman one has been sharing my life and personal thoughts with is in reality a lying, dishonest actress.
All I wanted to do was try to meet a nice single lady, and now feel betrayed and cannot understand how others can enjoy scamming people. It's beyond me to understand!
But we need to pick ourselves up, move on and I think it's a good idea of R/S to consider.
I would not mind contributing to a small/modest membership fee if that route was taken.
At least many people here have 1 thing in common already and I think members would feel more comfortable.
But there would need to be members in all areas to make it work properly and also a good balance and mixture of ages, too I guess.
Some people have lost only a few hundred dollars, others lost thousands and I could understand some not liking the proposed idea because of the hurt and mistrust they now feel.
That is just some thoughts and wanted to put my 20c worth in..

[Linoge]

2) Members would be assured an absolutely 100% scammer free environment.

4) We could literally gang bang and verbally beat to a bloody pulp, an occasional scammer that might intentionally or unintentionally slip through the cracks until they were kicked off by admin.

Who are you supposed to beat to a bloody pulp if you assure a 100% scammer free environment?

How would you keep up the image of being independant and here to help people that get scammed if you start your own dating site they need to pay for?

[Pinky]

Who are you supposed to beat to a bloody pulp if you assure a 100% scammer free environment?

By 100% scammer free, I mean that scammers who manage to get in are removed quickly and people they contacted in their very brief membership are notified immediately. Some scammers do know to use proxies to get onto even clean sites. They're detected when they spam out multiple contacts messages in a short amount of time and also when their IP address does not match their stated location.

And I do enjoy flaming them for the freakin idiots they truly are. You're not a scammer hugger are you?

How would you keep up the image of being independant and here to help people that get scammed if you start your own dating site they need to pay for?

We don't keep up any image. We ARE exactly what we represent ourselves to be. We don't ask money from people seeking to only know if they're in contact with scammers. Everyone who is part of this site DONATES and VOLUNTEERS their time and efforts for NO compensation. Romancescam.com does however, solicit donations with NO pressure or obligation implied, because it is expensive to maintain and operate a large database and website such as this one.