I have been reading your message. I am kind of relieved that other people feel in the same way like me. That it is not only about financial scam but also emotional scam.
However, the other things, about being single, married, giving etc. I am not sure about these. Everybody else's situation is different. I guess mine is a kind of an extreme one. I have never been married or liked because I am not attractive enough and do not have a settled life. It feels like it will never be healed. Besides, it makes me vulnerable to these type of scams.
Life is not supposed to be spent alone.I believe,all these men or women, including myself, have some kind of emotional emptiness that leads us these dating sites. So the evil ones who are very aware of human nature use this fact in their own benefit. Because, most people says the similar things: "I knew there was something wrong" or "I realized some inconsistencies" but we still keep communicating to these people.
On the other hand, there is one comment there about scammers saying they avoid answering personal questions. But in our daily lives, most of us do this as well. There are many people prefer keeping some of their individual details, emotions, facts etc sharing with the others they have to deal with everyday at work, at school and maybe even at home. Can it be one of the reasons that we continue ignoring the signs?
Now, I have been thinking about the man with whom I have had an email communication prior to this scammer. I preferred not answering his question about not being able to find a swimming pool. At that moment, I told myself "what kind of point is he making? I will skip this question" I am living in a metropol with a population of more than 20million. Sometimes knowing the facility's location does not mean it is an easy access location for everybody because of commuting, working hours etc. I didn't bother to write anything on the subject. Since I travel for my work and for these small type of things,did he think I am a scammer? I can't get my mind off this thought. The idea of that somebody might have though that I am one of those things while I have been a victim is horrible.
Feeling stupid, pathetic, emotionally scammed, all have been all hunting my mind now. It will take time to go back to the normal, long time!
I wish everybody finds a way to heal quickly.