Take2 wrote:I am not there yet to completely cut ties but . . .
This is not a good thing. He will only hurt you more and he'll always be looking for new ways to get money from you. He might find a way.
Take2 wrote:to get him out of Malaysia . . .
The only way he's leaving Malaysia is by deportation back to Nigeria. You do realize you're being scammed by a young, black Nigerian on student visa in Malaysia, don't you?
Take2 wrote:but honestly still have a gleam of hope about recovery.
For your own safety and sanity you should lose that hope immediately.
Take2 wrote:I frantically have asked around about this to people in the UK, because his whole deadly advantage is my and probably all victims' lack of knowledge aobut other countries and business dealings in general. Of course no one has heard of this and many immediately said SCAM. I challenged him on almost everything since he has been "back" in the UK, and he confidently refuted that I just don't know how UK works, and has been able to "educate" me on many things characteristic of the UK, which turn out to be true. (like needing permits for watching tv and radio!), so he is really good w/ all his info. Without the IP and researching pictures, I would still believe him. I finally tried to purposely ask him about this charge however, and he said it was a VAT, which is 1% applied to checks over 5 million pounds. Of course the average person even in the UK wouldn't know about this, so I cannot find ammunition to refute this right now.
These are all lies. He's stolen your money and that's all there is to it. He's not the guy in the pictures that you fell in love with. He's not even in the UK. If his IP is now coming from the UK, where it was Malaysia previously, then he's either got a scam partner in the UK (many do) or he's using a proxy to email you.
Since you've lost an exorbitant amount of money, you should go to the police immediately. They will tell you they cannot do anything - and this is true because your scammer is way beyond their legal jurisdiction - but maybe you and the police together can get some government official to protest to the Malaysian authorities. From what I understand, the Malaysian government is trying to rid themselves of these human parasites.
Take2 wrote:I do admittedly want to make the flight over there to the house he claim to be in, and I know he has no choice but to either disappear or fess up.
I believe you still don't completely understand the depth of this scam. He is not at any of the addresses he gave you. NOTHING he has given you can lead anyone to him. Only his IP address, which is the unique number that the ISP he's using has assigned to his computer, can lead to a location where he emailed you from. That will most likely turn out to be a public internet cafe.
If you go to Malaysia to find him, YOU will find nothing. But if he knows you're coming, HE will find you. Maybe he'll pretend to be a cab driver and pick you up. Maybe he and his gang will surreptitiously follow you. No matter what, your life will be in danger. They will know that their gravy train ends when you realize they are not who you think. At that point you are only worth the cash, jewelry and personal belongings you have with you. You will be dispossessed of them in probably a painful, maybe even a deadly manner. Of if they think you have rich relatives back home . . . you could be held for ransom after they rob you. DO NOT GO TO MALAYSIA!!
You lost a lot. Nearly everyone here has lost something. Whether large or small, we all go through the same trauma, drama, pain and suffering. Start your closure by finding a good therapist you can trust to work you through the normal grieving process. Your money is not your life, your love, or your family. You can be happy without it.
Take2 wrote:actually missing this "relationship" that I've devoted almost a year now.
We hear that a lot here. There is a period of withdrawal, for sure. It's almost like an addiction. Again, nearly everyone here has been through this. You will find understanding here. What you won't find is anyone here allowing you to continue deluding yourself.
Take2 wrote:If anyone is aware of any support groups that address our type of scam, please let me know.
We're it, I think. We are not therapists, though. You will find that most the people who respond to you have been victimized by scammers in the same way. Single moms, elderly pensioners, divorced, widowed and lonely people who have all been fleeced of what they couldn't afford and have all had their hopes and dreams shattered. You are not alone.
We do have patience, but we have little for those who are so caught up in their scam that they don't get that not posting the scammer's information is hurting others, too. You are not alone again. Your scammer is doing others the same as he's been doing you. We won't ask you too many times, to post his information so that others might be warned, before we too lose our patience. We have abundant sympathy and compassion when you show yours as well. And believe me when I tell you, YOU will feel better knowing you've helped others. It's the fastest cure for your suffering.