OMG..What is wrong with me

[SuchAfool]

I came upon this site completely by accident. (Or maybe it was fate) In anycase, after seeing a pic of someone I've been talking to online I'm completely devasted and wondering what is wrong with me that I am so vunerable to have fallen so damn hard for this man. I have numerous pictures of this "person" not just the one on this site.

No, he has not gotten any money from me, THANK GOD, but he got even worse. My heart. I'm crushed and will probably cry myself to sleep.

[duckhunter]

Oh my gosh I am so glad you did find us. Welcome.

You are not a fool. Scammers are the craftiest, most clever criminals you will ever come across, and are adept at manipulating your emotions. Intellect does not come into the equation. But somehow your inner wisdom felt something was just not right --- and you let google lead you here.

Welcome. We understand what you are going through.

Now, what you need to do -- and this is mandatory -- is to drop him cold, without a word of explanation. Block him, do not read his emails, don't answer his calls. The next thing we would like you to do is to post all of the details you have on your scammer. Your welcome pm will guide you through this process.

[SuchAfool]

What should I do? Do I post all the pictures here? I have gone through a bunch of the emails I received from him and traced them. Most of them came from Ghana but there are a few that came out of the states. The phone number he gave me is from Seatle, WA and is through International Telecom

Even though I have found all this I'm still in disbelief. Like, no this isnt happening

[duckhunter]

It did happen, though I wish I could tell you otherwise. I am so sorry.

Your welcome pm will guide you through the process of posting. It should be done in the appropriate section -- white male/black male. Don't worry about the US ip addresses as those will be proxies. Post the others. Include his email address, any phone numbers, associates, and addresses he may have given you.

The phone number (206 area code) will be an internet redirect/forwarding number. Scammers use them to hide their location.

In the meantime, here is a link that may help you viewtopic.php?f=22&t=34601

And also a free ebook that you might find helpful as well http://www.romancescambaiter.com/ssh.pdf

Please know that we are here to help you through this difficult time. Feel free to reach out for support. (That's what we are here for, among other things.)

[Pinky]

What's wrong with you? Well, let's see here . . . obviously you're an honest person as it never occurred to you that anyone might be dishonest about sharing their heart. You have a conscience. Oh, you also have a great capacity to give and receive unconditional love (sight unseen). You're probably compassionate, generous, hard working and responsible . . . yes, these things are all bad and wrong - if you want to make it in life as a stinkin' dirtbag-low-life African scammer boy.

Please do as Ducky says and stop all communication with him immediately. Trust us for now and spend a couple days reading here on this site and it will all become clear to you. You will probably get very angry at some point in all this, which will probably feel a little better than the hurt you're feeling now, but let us help you channel that anger and probable desire for revenge, in a direction that will help others instead of the scammer. Your heart will heal faster.

[stupidlyscammed]

I am in the same boat with you 'suchafool'. I was totally crushed, I cried for days, contemplated suicide and even thought of talking to him again and asking him 'please don't do this to me!' but before I could he threatened me, to expose photos of me in the internet! My beloved, the handsome man who told me I am his wife, threatened to expose me. I don't know whether he will or not, but this is pushing me towards a nervous breakdown. So many what ifs...I wish I never saw his handsome face or the cute way he holds his children. His endearments in the chat room.

[Pinky]

SS (you are NOT stupid), know this: the face in the pictures that you fell in love with, is not really the same criminal who romanced you and promised you his love. In reality it's an adolescent, black African boy, hiding behind a computer in a grimy net cafe, probably in Nigeria or Ghana. He's also a sociopath without conscience enough to care whether you live or die, much less if he hurt you. Don't even think of harming yourself over a piece of sh*t like this.

I predict your next stage will be horrific anger, which is perfectly normal. Channel that anger into exposing this jerk and making his nasty business more difficult. He is doing others while he was doing you. Please help them. Post his details.

[leezaal]

Hi All,
To the original poster there is nothing wrong with you your a kind soul heres my story.
My name is lee i'm a 42 year old bloke, single and feel like a right wally at the mo.
I started receiving emails out of the blue 2 weeks ago from a person who may or may not be a female called
Kristina oleshchk (possible freelance scammer) claims to be from tula, russia, shes 32 single & looking for mr right.
She sends me loads of photos in each email every 2 days, says she got my email from a dating website but cant remember what one (nor can i).
Says she emails me from her work so no webcam to verify that she is the woman in the photos.
Has not asked for money but does seem to be getting very serious very quickly and now wants to meet after just 2 weeks! says she has time off from work to have a holiday soon and really wants us to meet up, i guess this would be one of the holiday scammers doing the rounds.
I feel so stupid i almost sent a birthday card out to her with my full UK address, luckily this morning i came to my senses and managed to cancel the B-day card thanks to a nice lady at moon-pig.com.
I consider myself to be computer savy and quite frankly i feel ashamed and stupid for almost falling for this scam.
I have now created a new yahoo account and re directed her emails to that to draw her away from my main aol account. so far she has technically done nothing wrong as far as the law goes except a whole bunch of lies.
I checked the full email headers and the originating ip seems to be from romania not russia!!
if any one wants to see her email address or photos to compare her to known scammers please feel free to contact me at (Mail address deleted) (not sure if i can post her pics or email here) dont want to break rules.

I would love to get my hands on the people that are selling all our email addresses, these scams are the worst possible kind going, they are just playing on our want of happiness, its cruel.
I guess in a day or two i will receive another photo strewn email from him/her who ever it is!!
cant believe how many of these websites i have found full of our sob stories there must be thousands of scammers out there at the moment.
thanks for reading this and any advice will be greatly appreciated

cheers

[The Enchantress]

Hi and welcome to Romance Scam leezaal.

I have deleted your mail address from your post - it is not wise to post personal details online - and your online safety is also our priority.

Please do post the mails and stolen photographs used by this scammer - it will alert and save others being scammed.

If you have any questions or concerns please post - we will help you all we can.

This guide may help you > http://www.romancescam.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=1&t=40328

[Pinky]

I started receiving emails out of the blue 2 weeks ago from a person who may or may not be a female called
Kristina oleshchk (possible freelance scammer) claims to be from tula, russia, shes 32 single & looking for mr right.
She sends me loads of photos in each email every 2 days, says she got my email from a dating website but cant remember what one (nor can i).

Hi Leezaal! Welcome.

So far you've not posted any proof that you're dealing with a scammer, but if your intuition is making you suspicious, you're probably correct to guess that 'she' is. We've seen the whole 'falling in love in 2 weeks or less, on the internet' thing blow up for most our members here.

I'm betting that you've been targeted by one guy or a gang of guys from a contact before on a dating site, or possibly you've posted your email address in an open forum before (which is why The Enchantress removed yours from here). I think what's probably happened is that in the past a scammer or a group of scammers decided to go after you but their previous 'Kristina' fake profiles got exposed here (this is what we do) and they had to reinvent a new woman to come after you. This is why they can't explain where they met you. You haven't met her.

Says she emails me from her work so no webcam to verify that she is the woman in the photos.
Has not asked for money but does seem to be getting very serious very quickly and now wants to meet after just 2 weeks! says she has time off from work to have a holiday soon and really wants us to meet up, i guess this would be one of the holiday scammers doing the rounds.

If she's a real she, she might be a pro dater. She wants you to come and spend lots of money on her. In that case she might even be married but whether she is or not, it's how she earns her living.

I feel so stupid i almost sent a birthday card out to her with my full UK address, luckily this morning i came to my senses and managed to cancel the B-day card thanks to a nice lady at moon-pig.com.

You know you shouldn't feel stupid. It's obvious you're not. It's perfectly human and normal to have hopes that what anyone tells you is the truth. And the thing about the birthday . . . I have noticed it's a common scam trick of the Russians. They always have a birthday within the first few weeks of the scam. It's to prime your gift pump and get you prepared to keep on giving.

I consider myself to be computer savy and quite frankly i feel ashamed and stupid for almost falling for this scam. I have now created a new yahoo account and re directed her emails to that to draw her away from my main aol account. so far she has technically done nothing wrong as far as the law goes except a whole bunch of lies.

Since you're computer savvy, get the IP addresses off the emails she's been sending you and do some research on them. Post them here if you'd like some help from us in digging for dirt. We're quite good detectives at that kind of stuff. Her IP is going to be the clincher here. Has it been used for scamming previously? Is it a proxy? Is it on spam lists? We understand her IP is from Romania, but it might not really be. Let's check into it more.

(not sure if i can post her pics or email here) dont want to break rules.

You could post them here, thanks for asking, but since she's not a proven scammer yet, it should go in our Pending forum where Google doesn't see what you post. Then once she's been proved, she'll be moved to White Females.

I would love to get my hands on the people that are selling all our email addresses, these scams are the worst possible kind going, they are just playing on our want of happiness, its cruel.
I guess in a day or two i will receive another photo strewn email from him/her who ever it is!!
cant believe how many of these websites i have found full of our sob stories there must be thousands of scammers out there at the moment.

We agree. Scams for money are bad enough but trashing people's hearts is despicable. Yes there are thousands of scammers out there. The Russians seem to stick with scamming men using pictures of pretty girls. Though the Africans do much like the Russians and go after men too, they are primarily focused on white, older women. The internet is full of them, hiding behind their lies and computers. Don't lose hope though. It doesn't take long to figure out who's who with a little practice. As for your babe, you should probably just be cool until you know for sure what she's up to. Once she's proved to be a scammer . . . I prefer to insult them and treat them like the trash they are, but it probably is best that you block her and not communicate with her again.

[stupidlyscammed]

Dear leezaal
Thank goodness you managed to back off in time, when your heart is not yet fully conquered by the person. Take heart, there are many real women out there who are looking for love outside of their own community.

[haleylynn]

@ Leezaal:

She's right, there are plenty of good-hearted women out there. If you've been around this site, you've read from most of them.

I've been saying "OMG.. What is wrong with me???" just about every day for the past 2 weeks ever since I found out I was scammed. My last text message from him was a week ago. I even said it to myself today when I had a STUPID thought of "gee I miss him I mean WHAT??? Thank God the thought vanished quickly. I have to remember that the person I was speaking with for 4 months IS NOT the gentleman in the photos and that every kind word that was said to me was simply to separate me from my money.

I still wonder if he will show up on my doorstep one day, I mean, the guy in the photo.... You see OMG!!! It's really difficult to separate the words from the photos, from the feelings and from the lies.

I simply say OMG!!!

HL

[leezaal]

You people restore hope, honestly after seeing the thousands of scammers that have been exposed on the internet its nice to come across some real people and thanks for all the feedback.
I dont feel it would be right to post Kristinas photos or emails at the moment as technically she/he has done nothing illegal yet!!, but here is the full yahoo email header i'm sure some one here can dissect it better than i can. the best i got was an IP address pointing to romania.

Received-SPF: none (domain of yahoo.com does not designate permitted sender hosts)
Received: from [127.0.0.1] by smtp108.mail.gq1.yahoo.com with NNFMP; 25 Jun 2011 07:28:02 -0000
X-Yahoo-Newman-Id: 739130.46168.bm@smtp108.mail.gq1.yahoo.com
Received: from 192.168.local (oleshchk@79.117.246.198 with plain)
Date: Sat, 25 Jun 201
From: oleshchk@yahoo.com
Subject: About my last relations

(Header trimmed)

[The Enchantress]

The IP does show from Romania - ISP: RCS & RDS S.A, but many scammers can manipulate IP.

The following "by smtp108.mail.gq1" is also used in many scams - see > Search result

I will post guide again - it may help http://www.romancescam.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=1&t=40328

[FrumpyBB]

I dont feel it would be right to post Kristinas photos or emails at the moment as technically she/he has done nothing illegal yet!!,

Nonsense! Post ahead, start a thread in Russian Scammers and put it all in there. We´ve already wasted 3 weeks. Lying about location is scam proof enough (Tula <=< Roumania). And ignore her. Ignore ignore ignore.

Do you want to allow HIM scamming other men by willingly holding proven scam information back?