Thanks firefly for the update on the yahoo email. I some more info to share and post...when I look back at the many conversations, at least 2 scammers were talking to me based on the content of the conversations, but eventually it looks like just one took over. We had daily contact and I realize that I provided the scammers with a bunch of stuff they can use to make themselves more believable and of course, pass along. Also, I know that normally the "potential" romance interest doesn't like to divulge personal information, but I was treated to a couple "stories."
I am choosing to share the the following info and info in future posts, despite it's very personal nature, because I want to share my story and also realize the this info may be recycled for use on someone else. I happened to be dealing with a difficult personal issue with my husband, while trying to manage the most intense semester of Nursing school, so I was extremely vulnerable. This can happen to anyone...even smart, savvy woman who are well educated and have successful careers.
Ok, so here I go....this is my inital response to the scammer for information about myself.
Deep breath...ME. It’s random, just pouring out of my mind, can’t stop it, nor do I want to...I want you to know what my mind is like when it’s on fire. Hang on I have a feeling it’s going to take some time read this.
First and foremost...I never do anything the easy way it seems...I always end up taking the road less traveled or the one with the most obstacles. I guess you could say I like to be challenged!
Colors: purple and black
Relaxing: so many ways - enjoying the sound of silence (probably my most favorite), being with good friends, laying in the arms of the one I love doing absolutely nothing. Listening to the rain drops, soaking up the sunshine, listening to classical music, making love (haha my next favorite).
Online dating: been there, done that, don’t think I would do it again, but I never say never.
Like walking/jogging in the morning, long car rides to nowhere, reading, writing letters that come from the heart, creating poems and prose, classic cars (I want a 68 Firebird or Camero or 67 Vette), traveling, golfing (well I used to, haven’t had time lately!). I’ll try or do anything (almost) at least once, repeat if I like it lol!
I see in shades of gray, there is no black and white. I am deep, I need depth to survive. A quirky soul who wants someone with just as much depth so we can explore our depths together, learn from each other, to be able to and want to share my deepest feelings with you. My mind and soul need intellectual stimulation, much like my body needs stimulation
Totally a hopeless romantic... and yes I do exist, just like you (I’m still in disbelief though lol!). The movie I think epitomizes true love is The Notebook. I want to grow old with someone like that. I want a man who isn’t afraid to show me his soul, his inner depths, who isn’t afraid to cry with me, laugh with me, and fight with me (honestly there is no such thing as perfect!!). I will be your rock and you will be my rock. Love is a two way street.
My friends just had their first grandchild...OMG, I can’t wait to have grandkids lol! I love babies and children. They are so innocent, full of life. They remind you sometimes that it is ok to want to see life through their eyes. As parents we have the opportunity to mold our children to be the best they can be to equip them with the confidence to tackle life, why do so many parents throw that chance away???
Warm, funny, serious, playful, down to earth, the girl next door...jeans are my staple, but love getting dressed up, makes the soul feel good. I love to dress my man and I like a man that does not mind shopping with me! I like a man who can dress up, but is equally comfortable in a worn, favorite pair of jeans and t shirt. OMG I love shoes!! I had over 200 pairs when I was working in New York City. A pair for every suit, dress, etc...I owned. Had to having matching shoes, what else can I say! Now it is a whole lot less...but it is growing again!
Easy going, make friends everywhere I go. The most non judgmental person you will ever meet, I have been told that so many times in my life I know it must be true!! When confronted with something that goes against my beliefs, I try to understand it. As a nurse, it is a part of your everyday existence.
I love old movies, especially Breakfast at Tiffany’s, North by Northwest and anything with Katherine Hepburn, Fred Astaire, or Cary Grant in it. I like any movie that has the ability to make you laugh, cry or think hard about something.
Music is soul candy for the ears...I love songs that have meaningful lyrics about life, love and death. I had stopped listening and my soul was sad...then smack, that funny thing called clarity hit me hard. I find such solace in music. Love long car rides with music, down winding roads, sunny days and gray days. I have happy songs, sad songs; I cry to music...that can be very cathartic.
I love food! Absolutely love to cook, it is my passion and even when I am stressed I like to cook to relax. Love to cook for others. I feel good when I can make someone smile with the food I cook. I love to share cooking, it is sexy and just plain fun! I never follow a recipe, a recipe it just a starting point...who knows what will happen! I love food that tantalizes the senses, that tastes so good it leaves you wanting more...haha kind like sex LOL! I love a good bottle of wine with a girlfriend or the one I love, sharing a great cup of coffee in the morning with the one I love.
Life is about what you have at this moment in time and being able to see the good in it. It isn’t about what you don’t have or want. They are nice to think about, but life really is what exists around you and if you aren’t happy with that you will never be happy.
Pay it forward – my motto. If not for the kindness of strangers when I was raising Sam as a single parent, I would not be whom I am or where I am today. No payment was required, I was asked to pay it forward and I have done it every day I can. My greatest joy is being able to do something for someone less fortunate than I am. Even though my life right now isn’t perfect, I know that someone else is worse off than me and it’s what keeps me putting one foot in front of the other, one day at a time.
I am strong as an over-steeped bag of tea when I need to be, but mostly I am soft and warm and really just want someone to hold me up and love me for me, every day of my life. I want to feel safe in the arms of the one I love.
My home life was not easy, but I can’t say I have any regrets. I could have turned out much differently, but I choose not to let it define me. Someday I will share my story with you.
OMG! I think I’m done
I hope I didn’t overwhelm you...but it wouldn’t have felt right if I was restrained.
Benjamine, there is something special about you...you have gotten to me in a way that I’ve only felt once before. I feel compelled to share with you things I don’t share with most. It’s about understanding where I’m coming from and appreciating it. I feel very comfortable with you, that you will not judge me.