Recently scammed

[Tina2012]

Hello - someone from another site had recommended me to this site as I have just recently been scammed by someone whom I had been corresponding with for almost 8 months. Even though I lost about $12K, I am struggling with the emotional aspects of the whole situation. To where I am questioning myself in everything. I cry, I get mad, I cry more, I get more mad and I am just sick about the whole situation on how someone could be so cruel no conscious what so ever.

[Tomi]

Hi Tina2012. Welcome to RS. So sorry for what you've been through. The anger and pain that you're feeling now is understandable. These scammers are criminals and evil. It is OK to cry but please don't be hard onto youself. It is not your fault. Be comforted that you can find friends here who are willing to support you. I suggest you read the Healing Process section, it may help you understand what you feel and ease your pain a little bit. It did help me. There are lots of testimonies there and you'll find out that you're not alone (the sad truth ).

And if you're ready, you can post your scammer details on the appropriate section. Instructions are found on the FAQ. By posting it, not only you're helping yourself to heal but you're also helping by warning future victims.

I know you can surpass this very sad moment of your life and you will find your strength.

Tomi

[Pinky]

Hi Tina. Tomi has give you great advice. All I can add is, anger is a normal, healthy stage to be in at this point. First it's justified and second, being a stronger emotion than sadness, it will dispel some of your self-recrimination, which you do not need right now. In other words, get mad. Blow off steam. Scream in a pillow and curse the scammer with every profane word you know. Pour your heart out here. Writing it down helps. Read about the stages and be aware of where you're at. It takes time to heal, but you can and will. Don't let this little bastard of a maggot have any more of your soul.

[emms49]

HI TINA,

I HAVE JUST BEEN SCAMMED AS WELL...YOU TEND TO BEAT YOURSELF UP OVER NOT SEEING THE SIGN'S. IT'S BEEN FIVE DAYS AGO SINCE I WENT THROUGH WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH....IT'S TERRIBLE!!! IT TURN'S YOU OFF FROM EVER GETTING INVOLVED WITH ANOTHER ONLINE ROMANCE AGAIN. BUT YOU HAVE TO GO ON....I KNOW IT'S HARD RIGHT NOW....BUT WE ARE WOMEN AND WE ARE STRONG....IT'S A DAY AT A TIME!! YOU HAVE TO TRY TO LET IT GO AS AN EXPERIENCE IN LIFE. YOU ARE A TRUSTING WOMAN...NEVER STOP BEING THAT WAY. OTHERWISE THESE SCAMMERS HAVE BEATEN YOU, AND THEY WIN!...BUT IN THE END YOU WILL WIN...I DON'T KNOW WHERE YOU ARE FROM, BUT OUR LIVES WHERE WE ARE IS SO MUCH BETTER THAN THEIRS. JUST KNOW YOU ARE NOT ALONE. THIS HAS HAPPENED TO SO MANY WOMEN. I HAVE BEEN ON EVERY SITE I CAN FIND AND REPORTING MY EXPERIENCE AND POSTING PICTURES. I'M DETERMINED TO MAKE SURE AS MANY PEOPLE KNOW OF MY EXPERIENCE AS I CAN GET TO. PLEASE DON'T DISPARE!! YOU WILL GET TO LIVE, LAUGH AND LOVE AGAIN. PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!!!.............AVA

[Loversberg]

Hi Tina,
Don't beat yourself up ...stay strong..... I have also been scammed last summer .....I know it is hard and painful at first but don't let him win over you...we are here for you if you need us....

[LANA]

Hi Tina,
I was scammed too..are 3 days that I sent away my scammer after 3 months we communicated every day. I also lost my money and I loved to madness a man that I discovered that does not exist. You are not alone, I am in pain with you, I also cry but I know that this bad experience will be used to make me stronger, even if now we are suffering a lot.I can tell to myself that I can look in the mirror without shame, because what I did for my scammer was from my heart, and we have a big SINCERE heart, you should never forget it . Think of God's justice to punish these dirty cheaters!! do not be afraid it will come to pass, hugs you...

[The Wild Geese]

Hello everyone,

Losing a person whom you never ever meet in person is nothing compared to losing a real person, a real loved one. In fact the real truth is, you never lost one because there was nobody to lose. You communicated with a person who did not exist. He just existed in the fantasy world of the scammer. Dreaming of being handsome and rich at your expense. Lots of us here have experienced a lost of a near member of the family. Then you know that losing the money and the scammer is not as painful as compaired to that. So, as a consolation to all of us, the pain we felt for losing the person we thought who cares a lot about us (foul smelling and ugly scammer of course), is not as painful as when one lost a real loved one. A person you lived and loved together for so many years. A person who cared and loved you in return. That is real painful. But losing a heartless devil? You just feel the hatred of being betrayed. Try selective amnesia. It helps a lot.

[aurorable]

Hello Everyone, I have been Scammed by the same person (at the same time that he was trying to get money from another person in the site), he is still trying to get in touch with me and continues to ask for money not as much as he had ask in the past, Of course he already took me for a Long ride and now he is only asking for $400. As he claims that is the small amount that he needs to return home (Los angeles) yeah right! I will send you the information about him soon I need to give myself sometime to get over it, I'm so hurt and feel really stupid that I believe in this person. He is very good at what he does and so convincing as well. I could also post some pics but I noticed that they are all the same that he had send to many of us out there. He gave me his home address in Los Angeles, after finding this site. I google it and he Lives right in the middle of the street Not such an address and the second address that he gave me and claiming that was his house, it turned out to be a huge appartment complex

I dont know what to do with myself and I can't stop thinking about this deal he is so wrong and he has no heart, taking advantage of womens out there. How can we trust guys?

I read in another post on this side that he has been told about your site, is this correct? if so I'm a bit afraid to give you the name that he is using with me because I noticed that there are a few differences with my situation such as the children, his age, Name he is using with me, as well the email addres that he is using. Please Advise

Thank You.

[Pinky]

We understand you're upset about this whole thing. Hopefully now that you've had a chance to read a bit about these scammers and who was behind scamming you, you'll begin to understand that this wasn't really something you could have foreseen or even prevented because you just didn't know there were dirt bags like this living on the earth. You might want to think of it as a terrible accident. You were in the wrong place at the wrong time. You can't make this mean that you are somehow bad and wrong. When you stop blaming yourself, it will get easier. For this scammer, it was just a job.

So, now there are important recommendations: Number one on the list, do NOT communicate with the little maggot ever again . . . unless it's to tell him to go f* his goat - when it's done with his mother. No, don't even tell him that. Just ignore all his attempts to communicate with you. Block his calls, texts and emails. I fake an email bounce back to them so they think my account is closed. He will threaten you with anything he can think of, if you let him, but he's impotent if he's ignored. He will go away.

Next, snap out of your funk long enough to post his email address, username and profile from wherever he found yo0u at. You are not the only woman he's scamming. Give his other victims the same chance you had, to find him out before it's too late for them.

Maybe someone did tell him he was posted here - no one should but people don't read first and do it anyway - but that doesn't matter. African IP's are blocked here and it's difficult for scammers to get through, but I personally like it when they do. I love to tell them exactly what I think of them. Never-the-less, we don't want them learning how to be better scammers by studying the mistakes they make and how we catch them.

That said, why do you even care if he knows you posted him here? Are you afraid you'll hurt his feelings or offend him? He cannot post anything here that would harm you. You are 100% safe. He's never going to come out from behind his computer in Africa. He's a puny boy, a coward and a moron with the equivalent of a elementary education. All he did was follow a script to scam you. And he probably wasn't even alone. These guys work in gangs.

[aurorable]

Thank You for you quickly response. You are so right. Where would I post this information? on this section

[Pinky]

In the thread where you found the stolen pictures that he's using. You don't have to post pictures if you don't have any different ones from what is already there. Just add the details, especially the ones that were slightly different and the things you thought strange. The stuff that made you suspicious is what people are going to google for.

[aurorable]

thanks

[FoolishMe]

I need support.
It has only just happened to me.
I even took loans that I can't afford out to help this man. All sorts of expletives jump to mind.
I am so hurt.
So depressed
So very very depressed.
Embaressed to tell anyone
Feel like a complete fool
Please someone talk to me

[Pinky]

You are not alone here. This is a raging epidemic of a crime that no criminal is caught at. But it's not your fault that you were uninformed. Read from others here and you will see how others cope.

[Loversberg]

Don't be Embarrassed....Pinky is right...you are not alone...we all experienced the pain the agony that the scammer put us through....Hang in there...If you need someone to talk to we are here.....