It is currently Mon Aug 10, 2020 3:38 pm
I can relate. Nobody understands at all what we went through. One family member even saying I don't know how you lived through it. For me, I just try to move on. It is like PTSD, it takes time to heal. The memories for me are real in my head, even though these things never happened. It's worse than a war, in some ways. Realizing this stuff never happened! The money and time I lost is real, that is for sure. The damage is real. I am doing better but it still haunts me. Granted I went through a lot more than the average person in a scam. But I am doing better. All you others hang in there. Not easy but its best we can do. Try each day to do something new.The news media shows a romance scam victim in such a negative, judgmental, mocking way. The victims sent all the money so the blame is entirely gone from the scammers. "You sent the money". No one has any knowledge of such scams like the romance scam, when I talk about it to or try to inform, they don't even know what the heck it's all about and it's usually grouped together with the usual business, phone scams like it's even the same. These vultures development a relationship, create a strong, emotional attachment to the vulnerable victim(divorced, widowed, someone that is in deep emotional pain) for months then attack. Being in an abusive marriage where I was put down and abused, coming from that very painful life to divorce right up until the time of the scam---> I was taking courses and felt stressed and did not feel confident, my family was not close to me, the scammer was there every step pushing my confidence and being excited when I passed the exams, motivating me and saying how much he believed in me, so a deep bond was created, the same way a patient and a special therapist are or star counselor develops with a student or how a motivational speaker is with his audience. The kindred spirits. That's how I felt right before he started the "attack".
How below toilet level scum would they have to be. Always being smart, practical with money, never lending it out unless it's family it's unbelievable for me when I look back at it that I fell for this, it's like it wasn't even me or I was possessed because I don't recognize myself and am at awe at how I developed this attachment.
I remember even mentioning how when I was suspicious and started saying how there are some that are victims of romance scams that actually committed suicide after realizing the shock and horror of what had happened to them, the scammer was just how could you put me in the same group as those shameless animals, I'm just someone who is stuck here and need help....
Absolutely no one will understand what is done to a romance scam victim during that nightmarish time when they are being scammed until they actually go through it themselves.
The only positive news I've heard related to romance scam victims is that more is being done to stop it. How artificial intelligence is being used to foil online dating scams.
https://phys.org/news/2019-02-artificia ... ating.html
Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 1 guest