Mad99 First please don't beat yourself up over this. I know it's hard. You can't help but feel that you should have seen this coming somehow. You even had friends and family try to warn you about sending money, along with asking you to be careful. And right now your thinking to yourself “Why Didn't I listen”,”why did I believe his story”
What you need to keep reminding yourself is that these are masters of manipulation.
They don't just come right off asking for you financial help. They work their way into your life at first.
Then the worst part. They work themselves into your heart.
And once they have done that they know that the heart can and will override the brain of their victims. They know that it is the good people in the world that will move Heaven and Earth for the ones we love. And this is the most horrendous part of this crime. These low life vermin get us to fall in love with them just so they can rob us.
I can personally understand what you must be going through with the holidays coming up.
December is also the anniversary of when I when through my hell.
And I'll be honest even after I recovered from my scam for a time Decembers have been a bit of a downer for me. Ok more then a downer. But it has been getting better over time.
My point is that I understand what it's like trying to put that happy face on. Trying to pretend to everyone around us that we are doing okay when in fact all we want to do is just crawl into the nearest whole and cry. But you can do this. You can find the strength to greet the people around you with at least a half convincing smile. It's hard I know, but you can do it. And as I said before whatever you decide to tell anyone, or not tell anyone is entirely up to you.
You have asked for prayers to help give you the strength needed to get through the coming weeks. And you have them. Mine as well as everyone here on this site.
And with this strength just keep reminding yourself that you had done nothing wrong.
You did not ask for this to happen to you in anyway.
All you had done was to fall in love.
And falling in love is never a crime.
Just be kind to yourself. Give yourself the time to grieve the loss of the love that you had found.
He may have been just a lie, but your feelings for him were real and genuine which makes this loss no less painful then the loss of a real loved one.
And face each day head on,,,,, It's easy.
Just put one foot in front of the other and keep your head high while holding this thought.
I Did Nothing Wrong.
And if you ever need to talk,,,, you know where to find us.
May God bless you Mad99 and grant you the strength you need.